When individuals are at the mercy of punishment and traumatization in a relationship, they have a tendency to create walls around themselves to stop hurt that is further comparable future circumstances. We as people survive as a result of effectiveness of our body’s defence mechanism. We have discovered to be aware of specific habits and tasks because we’ve been harmed into the past and don’t like to experience that discomfort once again. That’s a normal and reaction that is normal being mistreated.
Often, however, those walls become therefore high that the walls by by themselves prohibit our development and recovery. Rather than seeing the walls as appropriate reminders that are cautionary we come across them as inflexible tips through which to reside the remainder of our life. Regardless of the circumstances, we could end up in the trap of saying old habits and habits, also because at one time they did serve us very well if they no longer serve us.
So just how do we commence to trust once again and truly heal from old habits of punishment and traumatization as we find somebody who is worth a relationship that is healthy? (more…)